So, if you didn’t already know, I started this series last month and I had so much fun with it! Basically, as a gal who’s never ever ever been happy with the size I am, I’ve always been the type to pick things up in shops and say “I’d sooo buy this if I didn’t have such big thighs” or “when I lose more weight I’m going to buy this” and let me tell you, that is such a miserable way to live. Whether you realise it or not, it is soooo damaging to be spending so much time putting yourself down, telling yourself you’re not good enough and that in order to dress the way you want, the way you see models and celebs dress, you have to lose weight or change things about yourself and that you must dress for your size, it’s allllll a load of rubbish!
For 2018 I set myself the challenge of stepping out of my comfort zone in so many aspects of my life, one of which being the way I dress! Now, don’t get me wrong, believe it or not I’m yet to be prancing around the streets in a bra and a pair of hot-pants, nor am I this super confident person who suddenly doesn’t give a second thought into what I wear because I am just so body confident… nope. It’s a journey; it’s all about little stepping stones and slowly trying to re-programme my brain, replacing all of those negative connotations that come with not being a size 8 or not being the ‘right shape’ in the eyes of the media and challenging the things I’ve been telling myself since I was 11 years old about what I should wear and how I should wear it in order to look the most flattering. And with that…. what better place to share the journey, than right here?
The outfit I opted for was a horizontally striped slogan T (absolutely criminal for anyone wanting to appear thinner… yadda yadda yadda), some fitted black trousers (fitted?! With my thighs?! Yep) some black velvet boots, an oversized denim jacket (wearing anything oversized is only going to make me look even bigger… yeah and????) and a scarf (I shot these photos in Edinburgh after all!)
When I first tried these stripe detail trousers on I was very reluctant about wearing them, they’re majorly out there for me as I only ever wear skinny jeans or baggy trousers and the fit of these are somewhere in the middle. Since wearing this style I’ve definitely gained confidence and feel hopeful that I can now get over my fear of Mom jeans! I love Mom jeans on other people, but anyone with bigger thighs/hips are generally told to steer clear of them as they do noooooothin’ for your figure, similarly to these style of trousers. But, for the first time in my life I stuck my fingers up to that theory and wore them anyway and guess what? I survived, nothing happened, a stampede of skinny, trouser-wearing women didn’t run me off the road for not dressing for my figure, no one even battered an eyelid and that’s when it dawned on me, what is it exactly that we’re scared of? And why does it appear that we all have this innate fear of wearing something that doesn’t flatter us?
The top I chose to wear was a slogan T Shirt; I thought it went really well tucked in to the trousers and I felt like the little ‘heart breaker’ detail gave something slightly more fun and cute to the outfit, also I am always up for a stripy top (even if horizontal stripes make you look wider or whatever they say). Also, is anyone else getting Spring vibes from this top? Ahhhh let’s just pretend it isn’t snowing a blizzard outside while I write this! Also, despite the misleading blaring sunshine in Edinburgh, it was FREEZING, like literally… 0 degrees freezing. So I had to pinch my boyfriends demin jacket and go for the four-sizes-too-big-but-let’s-pretend-its-meant-to-be-oversized look, we’ve all been there… haven’t we… just me?
Then come the scarf and sunglasses combo, a slight oxymoron by anyone’s standards but a necessity at that. I didn’t plan on having to wear a scarf so I must admit, it kind of ruined the outfit but it was that or freeze to death and although I did brave the cold for a couple photo’s, in the end I was very glad to be wrapped up in a massive jacket and cosy scarf.
All in all, despite the initial mirror check and the “this is sooooo not flattering” thoughts that filled my brain, I managed to push it to the back of my mind and after around 5 or 10 minutes I forgot I’d ever felt self conscious in the first place! Wearing something that you know that you normally wouldn’t, or that you “shouldn’t” according to the way we’re told to dress can feel so liberating, so why not give a big middle finger to the ideology that you have to change yourself in any way before you wear that outfit you really love and just go ahead and bloody well do it anyway! (And don’t forget to let me know how you get on! I’d love to hear your stories about a time you’ve stepped out of your comfort zone, let’s inspire each other!)
Top- New Look
Bag – New Look
Trousers – New Look
Shoes – Primark
Scarf – New Look
Jacket – ASOS men’s
(New Look are killing it atm 😍)
I hope you’ve liked this post, I’ve got a video all about my weekend in Edinburgh coming very soon and a ‘What I eat in a Day’ video so subscribe to my Youtube to see that! Next week is my birthday week so you can expect lots of make-up, outfit and celebration posts coming soon!
Thanks for reading,